By Ayanna Puri
“When awareness is brought to an emotion, power is brought into your life”
Human Intelligence can be classified as such; Intelligent quotient (IQ) meaning memorizing the tables in math, knowing all about world history or mastering ins and out of the digestive system. IQ teaches you your A’s, B’s C’s, analytical skills and rational thought. Emotional intelligent (EQ.) EQ is self-awareness. Emotional quotient helps understand yourself, your strengths and weakness, helps one readjust as per circumstances and reevaluate. Higher EQ lets a person express with positivity, manage conflict and lead effectively. And finally, there is SQ (social quotient). SQ an integral combination of IQ and EQ. Social Intelligence is an expansion of Emotional intelligence meaning that it’s more advanced but of equal importance. It helps us tune into the feelings of others and analyze that information, and to read subtle behaviour clues, to choose the most effective response to that particular situation such as to identify a mistake and take the right actions. Another intelligent is adversity quotient (AQ) giving a person the strength to face challenges or rough phases in life, without losing hope. It is done in a controlled, balanced and resilient manner. If you have a good IQ it means nothing unless you have a strong EQ.
Our education system has always and still does focus primarily on our Intelligence and that is IQ. Exams, tests, scores, A’s and B’s (in our case 7’s and 8’s) are very important in a student’s life. Their successes in class are defined by how well they fare in these tests, this sort of mentality where you let your grades define you, is toxic and harmful for a student because it puts an immense load of pressure and stress. However, in late 1900, scientists and educators alike have come to a conclusion the emotional health is equally as important, and that too from a very young age. Emotional intelligence helps kids become better communicators, make friends, share, solve problems and reduces stress and anxiety. Success in a classroom depends on more than just the child’s IQ.
This quote by a school principal who survived the nazi camp, sums it up beautifully “I am a survivor of a concentration camp.”My eyes saw things that no person should witness. Gas chambers built by learned engineers. Children poisoned by educated physicians. Infants killed by training nurses. Women and babies shot and killed by high school and college graduates. So, I am suspicious of education. My request is, help your students to be human. Your efforts must never produce learned monsters, skilled psychopaths, or educated maniacs. Reading and writing and spelling and history and arithmetic are only important if they serve to make our students more human.”
There is a strong relationship between a children’s EQ and their behaviour. Children with lower emotional intelligence may find it difficult to make friends with peers or even adults. This could be because they don’t know how to react appropriately when something is told to them or they don’t know how to interact in conversations. Traits such as short temper, aggression, and rudeness, to name a few, are all signs of lack in emotional intelligence in a person. These signs usually first show up in preschool. If this is ignored it will become harder to learn how to change a habit. If a child finds it hard to talk about their feelings or express emotion, the educator should be able to identify this and help the child with their emotions and to understand why they feel this certain way, and how they can be helped. For example, if a bright child is not doing well in a class, all of a sudden acting out, getting angry or being disruptive, then he or she shouldn’t be punished. Instead, the reason behind this sudden behaviour needs to be addressed.
Firstly what should be done is to, stop and identify the emotions. Then listen to the child’s problems and feelings. Empathize with them and make them feel like its ok. Help them with problem-solving skills. Set an example and lead by that example. If two kids are fighting over a book, teach them how to share, show them how you share with your peers and the advantages. Unless we teach children how to be compassionate and share, they will grow up without communication skills and, thus, they might find it harder in life to find a job or make friends. This is because they can’t communicate what they want in a mannerly way. However, if children’s problems are resolved and emotions are dealt with early in life it is very likely that the child will bounce back and this will help overall performance in the classroom and life as well.
So while the school is focusing on the IQ of the students, let’s push the need of emotional intelligence and get the kids for being excellent accountants, to great business leaders, from writing the best political campaign to being a great world leader! An emotionally and socially intelligent person will know that one cannot rise alone! You succeed when your team succeeds. And with every successful child, we will build a more compassionate, motivated, empathetic and aware generation. As Fyodor Dostoevsky one said
“It takes something more than intelligence to act intelligently”